gloves off

hello friends. don't know when/if you will read this...

having heard both sides of the story, i personally feel that two things should happen, in this order:

1) conversations and apologies
2) time and space

both sides are unaware of why the other person is pissed off. you are both guessing, but you really don't understand.

one side doesn't understand why someone would say one thing but not act on it when the time comes; and why they have certain boundaries and seem to blame them for it.

the other side doesn't understand why the others can't seem to respect her boundaries; and why after telling them straight up that something hurts, it continues to happen.

friends, can we fix this? you all have had some serious misunderstandings and i think it's worth doing one of those talks like they do on the hills, but without the cheesy music. (a lauren/audrina talk, not a lauren/heidi reconciliation please.) gloves off, defenses down. just try to understand where the other is coming from. i think 10 years merits a conversation where no one is trying to defend themselves, only explain.

then take some time to chill. maybe it's a good thing that most people are back in school now.

don't be babies, saying stuff like, "i shouldn't call, she should call" or snarky remarks like, "whatever." be honest, but careful with your words. the thing about reconciliation isn't that you are all happy and skippy together again. the point is to recognize that things aren't ok, be friends of 10 years and talk about it.

just my opinion.